How did I start living my dream life?
The word “start” is very important here because that’s actually all you need to do.
There are two aspects: work & mindset. Yes, like in the cliche self-help books.
Work:
Unless you want to be a complete hippy, you have to accept that your work IS your life. So is it a life that you love or a life that you hate?
I’ve discovered that I just physically CAN’T work for somebody else. I can’t stand the idea of working for someone else’s dream and sacrificing my precious time. Just for money?! Just to buy stuff?
So there are a few things you need to get rid of in order to start seeing the solution in the first place. First, our system has raised us to live in the box. That’s how big systems sustain - school, 9-5 work etc. We give away our own power by being dependent on governments, bosses, partners.
You have to consciously train to take responsibility for your life. The government doesn’t have to give you a job - create your own perfect job. Your boss doesn’t have to find ways to keep you motivated and give you money - you’re better off alone! And your partner doesn’t have to make you happy. In fact, they can’t - it’s up to you!
I would rather not have that fancy work car and free gym bonuses (see “golden handcuffs” definition below) for a few years and build up my own company that would then start paying for my private at-home gym and my own dream car.
creating things >>>> buying things
A golden handcuff is an incentive that management provides employees to encourage them to stay with their company for the long term. You get a little pump every once in a while, and that little pump is enough to make you stick with them. Common examples of golden handcuffs include salary bonuses, stock opportunities, company cars and tuition assistance.
But there’s a catch. If you start building your own business, you will have to retain your ego at first. You will have those days when you can’t even buy food because you have 2€ on your bank account, or when you don’t know how you’re gonna pay rent next month. I still have them. Don’t think building your business is easy and that you will have all the free time and money in the world - you will have that AFTER your business is built up and successfully running!
Mindset:
Money should never be the primary goal. Money can NEVER be the motivation for doing anything. What do you really want? Safety? Freedom to travel? Look good? Have more friends? Go deeper. Maybe there’s a fear behind this?
How can you have those things already RIGHT NOW? Your mind is a very powerful tool - it can come up with an answer to anything. Use it for your advantage - find creative solutions to achieving these things you really want already right now. Maybe you can start freelancing and move abroad? Or take some course that would help you move closer to your dream? Or do some inner work about the need to have expensive designer clothes and phones…
Or, just believe that everything will work out. If you are giving your best every day, for good intentions, only good things can happen.
This is how I dreamt of living in Noblessner, and ended up there a year later. Manifested my dream partner. Travel the world with a one-way ticket. And am shocked every day about how on earth did I end up with so amazing people, opportunities, and life.
So this is how you can create the life (& work) you love and actually enjoy the process. Everything is possible, and you know it.
